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Anne Goodwin’s drive to understand what makes people tick led to a career in clinical psychology. That same curiosity now powers her fiction.
A prize-winning short-story writer, she has published three novels and a short story collection with small independent press, Inspired Quill. Her debut novel, Sugar and Snails, was shortlisted for the 2016 Polari First Book Prize.
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Enmeshed: My Devotion & Burnt Sugar

16/10/2020

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I’ve recently read two novels about women whose damaging childhoods lead to adult relationships  where they can’t manage to separate psychologically from someone who fails to meet their needs. In the first, a French translation, the enmeshed relationship is with a man who is less than a partner but more than a friend. The second, set in India, centres on a toxic mother-daughter relationship, a common theme in my reading and writing, which has sparked this week’s 99-word story.

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My Devotion by Julia Kerninon translated by
Alison Anderson

The youngest child of a British diplomat in Rome, Helen is ignored by her parents and sexually abused by her brothers before she’s out of her teens. Fortunately, she finds a soulmate in Frank, a similarly wounded child. As soon as their school years are over, Helen persuades both their parents to let them go and live in her mother’s house in Amsterdam.
 
While Helen continues her studies and embarks on an academic career, Frank seems to drift until, in his late twenties, he discovers a hidden talent for art. In time, he becomes a celebrated painter, with the bohemian lifestyle that accompanies it, while Helen assumes responsibility for the domestic arrangements. Not partners, but more than friends, they coexist in seeming harmony until Helen is forced to ask herself whether Frank is worthy of her devotion.
 
With short chapters, and lots of twists and turns, this is an absorbing novel about love, loyalty, self-sacrifice and the damaged adults who emerge from neglectful childhoods. Thanks to publishers Europa editions for my review copy.


Burnt Sugar by Avni Doshi

Antara is an artist in Pune[1], married to Dilip who “grew up in America and breaks his rotis with two hands” (p13)[2]. Although her drawings – a sequence of Chinese-whisper-like repetitions from a photograph of an unknown man – don’t sell, she enjoys a middle-class lifestyle with a servant at home and dinners in expensive restaurants or with friends at the Club. At the start, her biggest problem seems to be her mother’s looming dementia, although the medics find no objective evidence of atrophy in her brain.
 
We know from the start that the mother-daughter relationship is conflicted, and Tara’s (the mother) forgetting of the cruelties inflicted on Antara is, for the daughter, a source of great pain. As the novel progresses, we learn of her history of maternal neglect. Fleeing her stultifying marriage, Tara took her three-year-old to live in an ashram where, when the Guru takes her as his consort, she abandons Antara to the care of his previous paramour. Four years later, when the Guru passes her over for another, mother and daughter are homeless until Tara’s parents taken them in.
 
I loved this Booker Prize shortlisted debut initially for the fabulous voice. Later, when I couldn’t see where it was going[3] my interest sagged. Then it picked up again as more of Antara’s damaged childhood, including a year at boarding school tortured by nuns, contextualised her flaky adult persona. There’s an excellent reversal when she has second thoughts about her mother’s possible recovery which I felt could have been given more prominence; as written, I didn’t think it a contender for the UK’s biggest fiction prize.
 
But had I missed something? I read this for my book group (and bought my own copy) and was taken aback when one member said she didn’t enjoy it much until she realised Antara is an unreliable narrator. I read her as biased, certainly, but unreliable implies some essential piece of the jigsaw is withheld. That would make it a different book, a better book, but I’m still waiting for that aha moment to change my mind. Published in India under the title Girl in White Cotton, Burnt Sugar is published by Hamish Hamilton in the UK.
 
There’s a short story about an enmeshed mother-daughter relationship in my collection, Somebody’s Daughter. Click on the image for a free copy.

[1] I was excited to come across a novel set in this Indian city which I visited several years ago but, alas, remember nothing about!

[2] What a fabulous way of introducing a character.

[3] I find myself increasingly in need of plot. See The therapy journey and narrative structure.

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I considered this last week for the flash fiction challenge to write about kid gloves, but I think it worked better with my therapy journey post . But you’ll see I sneaked those gloves into this week’s 99-word story on the theme of chores.

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Toxic love

Domesticity drove her crazy. Or was it merely my muck made her mad? A ten-pound food-processing system: in went puréed parsnip, out came puke and shit. Now she’s the one in nappies, I flutter around her in kid gloves.

I left her once; guilt made me boomerang back. Or perhaps the hope she’d finally love me, now she had time to spare.

People say I’m saintly. I say I’ve no choice. They don’t see how easy it is, behind the cooking and cleaning and laundry. How easy to mess with the mind of someone you’ve known your entire life.
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D. Avery link
16/10/2020 03:24:51 pm

Plenty of toxicity in that flash! And plenty of room to grow the bigger tale, I'm thinking. TUFF that one out with different perspectives. Or not.
Thank you, as always, for the reviews. Trying to find the adjective- trustworthy.

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Anne Goodwin
22/10/2020 12:51:38 pm

I'll go with trustworthy – thanks! I have a bucket load of toxic mother-daughter tales, but I don't think I've got to the revenge stage yet. I found an Irish writer who did that brilliantly but can't remember who it was. It'll come to me, but then I'll have forgotten where I wanted to mention her!!!

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Norah Colvin
18/10/2020 12:03:03 pm

I enjoyed your reviews, Anne, and consider My Devotion as a possible, though I'm not so sure about Burnt Sugar.
I did enjoy your flash though - read it twice to ensure I had the relationships right. But of course, they suit the reviews with neglectful parents. Funny how some are unable to flee the apron-strings, particularly when they've been tied a little too tight in the early days. The character/situation reminds me of Hitcock's Psycho.

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Anne Goodwin
22/10/2020 12:53:54 pm

Hadn't thought of that, Norah, but you're right Psycho is an extreme example. I think some stay tied because unconsciously they are still hoping for what was missing in the first place.

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Norah Colvin
25/10/2020 11:16:41 am

No doubt you are right, Anne.

Anne Goodwin
27/10/2020 06:45:20 am

:-)

Liz Hartmann link
18/10/2020 11:16:42 pm

When you can't walk away, can't detach from the mess, Karma comes calling with a wicked grin. And the song is the same, generation after generation...

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Anne Goodwin
22/10/2020 12:56:20 pm

Often the pattern, Liz, and particularly sad when people think they've changed the song but don't notice the tune's the same. I admire those who manage to detach enough not to pass the same hangups on to their children.

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