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Anne Goodwin’s drive to understand what makes people tick led to a career in clinical psychology. That same curiosity now powers her fiction.
A prize-winning short-story writer, she has published three novels and a short story collection with small independent press, Inspired Quill. Her debut novel, Sugar and Snails, was shortlisted for the 2016 Polari First Book Prize.
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Problematic Masculinity: Our Fathers & A Man Who Is Not a Man

15/3/2020

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How do boys become men and what happens to those whose journeys go wrong? The first of these novels, set in Scotland, looks at what boys learn from their fathers when the son of a bully goes on to murder his family, apart from his younger son. The second is about a traditional coming-of-age ceremony in South Africa and the physical, psychological and social consequences of a botched circumcision.

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Our Fathers by Rebecca Wait

Tom has returned to the small Hebridean island he left twenty years ago at the age of ten. Malcolm, his uncle, isn’t expecting him; out of touch for several years, Tom was unaware Malcolm’s wife is dead. But everyone remembers little Tommy, the sole survivor of a familicide: when Tom was eight his father shot and killed his mother, brother and baby sister before turning the gun on himself.
 
Malcolm isn’t ecstatic to see his nephew again, mostly because he’s grown accustomed to living alone. Although determined to do his duty by his only living relative, he’s not sure what he has to offer beyond constant cups of tea. His wife, Heather, used to manage the emotional side of things.
 
The islanders also have mixed feelings about Tom’s return, some have particular reason to resent the reminder of the shocking incident that catapulted this quiet corner of the world into the news. John, Tom’s father, was ‘one of us’; how could he have done something so dreadful? Was it – the more comforting rationalisation – a freak moment of madness or did they fail to read the signs?
 
Rebecca Wait handles her material adroitly, with great compassion for her characters and avoidance of sensationalism that such situations can attract. Tom and Malcolm’s mutual conversational clumsiness is poignantly rendered in their repeated failures to connect. While she sensibly eschews a redemptive cathartic climax, the men, along with the reader, are enriched by the time they spend in each other’s company.
 
I was sceptical initially when, over halfway through, we move into Katrina’s, Tom’s mother’s, back story, but this soon developed from what might have seemed a psychological case study into a brilliant narrative of a vulnerable woman subjected to coercive control. (Although I still don’t know if John’s excruciating chat-up line was meant to illustrate his character, and Katrina’s in her failure to give him the finger, or the young author’s assumptions of gender relationships in what I presume to be my own youth.)
 
When I requested this novel from publishers riverrun, I didn’t realise I’d read this author before. If my memory serves me right (this was before I started reviewing), I was a little disappointed with the mental health theme in her debut The View on the Way down. I’m glad I didn’t (remember), as I might have missed out on this, her brilliant third novel. Our Fathers is a quietly potent novel about a shocking crime which honestly addresses coercive control, survivor guilt and our collective willingness to turn a blind eye. Psychologically astute, I cannot praise this novel enough.
 
It must be something in the ether because this is the sixth novel about/set on islands I’ve read so far this year. Perhaps it’s about the need for clearly boundaried space? If that’s your thing, you might also enjoy
Kiran Millwood Hargrave The Mercies
Elisabeth Gifford The Lost Lights of St Kilda
Amitav Ghosh Gun Island
Sandrine Collette Just after the Wave
Molly Aitken The Island Child


A Man Who Is Not a Man by Thando Mgqolozana

Lumkile seems destined for a life of drugs and crime until his mother summons him from his father’s place in Cape Town. Initially reluctant, the eighteen-year-old settles into village life, studying hard and forging a relationship with a beautiful girl with a similarly damaging early adolescence. If all goes well, they’ll move on to university together. But first, Lumkile will go to the mountain for the trial that will make him a man.
 
I’ve seen documentaries about African coming-of-age rituals, but naïvely assumed the practice had mellowed or completely died out. Not so! Lumkile is older than the boys in the films that previously disturbed me and, in his culture, boys undergo circumcision alone. Or under the supervision of an older relative, whose absence in his case might explain why Lumkile’s journey to manhood goes so badly wrong.
 
The rationale, as outlined in an early chapter, is that the ordeal teaches patience and endurance, learning how to manoeuvre through the difficult situations that life will undoubtedly present. Lumkile willingly suffers the agony, hunger, thirst (I found it particularly unsettling that initiates aren’t allowed to drink during their eight days of seclusion), isolation and enforced wakefulness but, when his penis starts to ooze and rot away, there’s no-one to tell him how serious it is.
 
The tension of this section of the novel is palpable as Lumkile, already weakened, fluctuates between the fear of chickening out and the fear of losing his life. Worse still, his community, and even some hospital staff, blame him for the failure of a procedure so central to their concept of masculinity. Saddled with shame, Lumkile finds no solidarity with the boys in a similar situation on the ward.
 
First published in South Africa in 2009, A Man Who Is Not a Man is republished by Cassava Republic, who provided my advance proof copy, on May 19th 2020 (appearing in the US on July 7th). Although I didn’t find the before and after chapters as well-written as those on the mountain, this is an important and compassionate story of a painful coming-of-age. It also highlights the ideological gap between traditional cultures, where individual needs are subservient to those of the group, and modern cultures which, while not completely devoid of social pressures, prize individuality.

If you’d like to explore this topic further, you might like my short story “Rebekah’s Foreskin”, about circumcision practices in some cultures in the Western world, which you can read in my identity-themed collection, Becoming Someone.

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This week’s flash fiction challenge is to compose a 99-word story about tapping. I haven’t managed to link my contribution with the overall theme of masculinity although, in my head, the unnamed narrator of my contribution to the collection is male. With half the world on lockdown due to the coronavirus, I thought of how social isolation is bad for our mental health.
I thought of Lumkile in his mountain shelter, fearing for his life. I thought of Steve in my second novel, Underneath, who seeks to resolve a relationship crisis by keeping a woman captive in a cellar. I thought of Henry in my forthcoming third novel, Matilda Windsor Is Coming Home, confined to his room with a fever, quietly going off his head. In that novel, I’ve drawn on the language and landscapes of my native Cumbria where, rather conveniently, tapped means crazy. I’m not sure how widely used the other interpretations are, although hopefully you’ll get the gist.

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Tapped
               
Tap tap tap: is that the central heating system waking? Or rain on windows rehearsing for another flood? Is it him, coming to repay the loan he tapped me for? Is it the virus making a start on my head? I should open the door, in case it’s the woman I tapped off with at last month’s party. I should lock it, in case it’s her trying to leave.
 
How many days since I touched someone? How many weeks since I spoke to anyone face-to-face? I have beer on tap but I’m going mental. Let’s face it, I’m tapped.

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D. Avery link
15/3/2020 11:01:29 pm

I think you have most of the meanings of tap covered. Your flash has me wondering how we all will come out of our isolations. We are to hunker down after we get some sort of educative distance plans thrown together tomorrow. (Those people who received World Toilet Day toilet paper as Christmas gifts from me are now seeing my generosity and foresight) Over the next couple of weeks I will no doubt be tapping my kindle account for some reading material, should I get through the stacks of print books that are about the house. Time to read. Silver lining?

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Anne Goodwin
16/3/2020 12:25:10 pm

Time to read is indeed a silver lining but even introverts and bookworms need some social contact. Here the plan is to ask the over 70s to self isolate, but they are perhaps the most at risk of loneliness which is also a killer. Strange times, are you to teach your classes via the computer (with the cat to assist)?

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Charli Mills
18/3/2020 12:50:41 am

Both books are important for our times, remembering that both genders suffer from the mindsets and social pressures of culture. I think I would like to read both books, though it seems Rebecca Wait's book might be more instructive as I continue to read with a writer's x-ray vision. I hope one day, to shift into more international reading.

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Anne Goodwin
19/3/2020 05:44:45 pm

Thanks, Charli, both are interesting but Our Fathers works more as a model for writing in my opinion.

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Norah Colvin
19/3/2020 11:57:57 am

Our Fathers sounds interesting. There was a recent case here where a man burnt his (ex) wife and three children in a car. Actually similar stories of familicide seem to occur all too frequently. It is difficult to understand. A Man Who is Not a Man sounds like a difficult read. It is sometimes impossible to believe the suffering we humans are able to insist our fellow humans go through.

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Norah Colvin
19/3/2020 12:01:19 pm

After focusing on the books, I forgot about your flash. I hope we're not all tapped after this requirement to isolate or there may be no point in living. Stay safe and well. I hope the only thing that is tapped is your creativity and your keyboard (remotely by voice activation).

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Anne Goodwin
19/3/2020 05:52:53 pm

Thanks for both your comments, Norah.

I think the family killings are a drastic and tragic reaction to the realisation that a man, however hard he tries, can't completely control his family. And I do think it's more a male thing.

Yeah, these are very strange times and we seem to have gone deeper into isolation in the few days since I wrote the flash. We're not hearing much about Australia – yes, I know I could look it up, but there seems to be enough to take in about the changing situation in my own country – but I imagine you're in the same boat. Except it must be especially hard after the trauma of the fires. Thankfully we've got email and Internet.

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