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Anne Goodwin writes entertaining fiction about identity, mental health and social justice. She has published three novels and a short story collection with Inspired Quill. Her debut, Sugar and Snails, was shortlisted for the Polari First Book Prize. Her new novel, Matilda Windsor Is Coming Home, is rooted in her work as a clinical psychologist in a long-stay psychiatric hospital.

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Reflections on literary love

21/9/2015

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When I posted my reflections from my Sunday walk last week, I failed to do justice to the writerly fruitfulness of that particular walk. Not only did I mull over getting lost, consistent with that week’s flash fiction prompt, I also began to formulate some ideas for a short story. Call me psychic – although the theme was more likely to have come from my recent post on Readers Writers Journal about the seduction of romance – but this story with a rare (for me) examination of love was the exact fit for Charli’s latest prompt, apart from being at least three times longer than the 99-word limit. But, tight for time, I’ve decided to use the opening as my contribution to this week’s compilation:

You saved me a seat in the lecture hall, knowing my bus was always late. You cheered louder than anyone when I got the prize for the highest marks in our year. You persuaded the corner shop to stock gluten-free croissants, so you could serve me breakfast in bed. You held me tight when the memories overwhelmed me, despite knowing no amount of holding could undo the past. You wore top hat and tails at our wedding, though more at home in jumpers and jeans. You did it all with perfect grace. You did it gladly, unthinkingly, for me.

The story I want to write in full is a bit darker, but the essence of being loved remains.

Building on my post for Readers Writers Journal – and another on the theme which is still in the pipeline – I’m reflecting on love versus romance in my novel, Sugar and Snails. My character, Diana, gets childishly excited about her late blooming romance (p111):

My boyfriend, I thought, as I scrubbed dried-on smears of rabbit stew from Marmaduke’s bowl. My boyfriend, I thought, as hail machine-gunned my face and the wheels of my bicycle splattered my shoes with gutter sludge. My boyfriend, as the laptop in the downstairs lecture theatre of the Skinner building refused to recognise my memory stick. My boyfriend.

It was childish, but childishness was hardly a crime. I used to envy my sister popping round to her boyfriend’s on Sunday afternoons, where they’d lounge on beanbags, listening to records while doing their homework. If I’d missed out on that stage of innocent intimacy, why shouldn’t I grab it now?

I could have it all without betraying the rest of me: my friends; my work; my own private space. My boyfriend didn’t snatch the time and energy I needed, didn’t deplete my reserves. On the contrary, he stretched and magnified what I had already, so that each moment, however ordinary or mundane, seemed twice as precious and twice as long. In giving myself to another I didn’t lose myself.

This was the game I’d played with Geraldine, until life showed me it was false. Now, when I’d all but given up, I’d found a genuine Romeo.

But perhaps more important is her discovery of love in a wider sense, with herself, and with her friends. Does that make it a different type of love story to a romance? While I’m thinking this through, I’ll share some descriptions of love which I’ve gleaned from my reading over the past year or so. I’m hoping they’ll inspire me to better writing in this important area of human experience.

A woman, newly in love, finds love permeates everything:

that happy inner blaze, the passion that let her breathe fully, and gave a shimmer to each hour. She would never have believed that she could love like this, where the whole world seemed divided in two: on the one side, away from him, the tiresome and gloomy city; on the other, where he was, all intensity and life, vividness and humor, and fascination in the littlest things. (Richard Bausch, Before, During, After, p226)

as does a young man:

For me, it’s in everything. Everything I hear. The map of the under, the shape of the river. This journey, the sound of it, it’s you. And that sound is better than any other in my life. To understand? I can’t keep it separate. (Anna Smaill, The Chimes, p218)

Then there’s love that evolves from the new and unexpected to the familiar:

‘Loving someone is like moving into a house,’ Sonja used to say. ‘At first you fall in love with all the new things, amazed every morning that all this belongs to you, as if fearing that someone would suddenly come rushing in through the door to explain that a terrible mistake has been made, you weren’t actually supposed to live in a wonderful place like this. Then over the years the walls become weathered, the wood splinters here and there, and you start to love that house not so much because of all of its perfection, but rather its imperfections. You get to know all the nooks and crannies. How to avoid getting the key caught in the lock when it’s cold outside. Which of the floorboards flex slightly when one steps on them or exactly how to open the wardrobe doors without their creaking. These are the little secrets that make it your home.’ (Fredrik Backman, A Man Called Ove, p266)

Which of these extracts sums up love best for you?

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Charli Mills
22/9/2015 04:08:58 am

Love your treatment of literary love! I will come back and finish the Readers Writers Journal. Good of you to use the flash to apply to what you are working on and the theme to discuss the topic of love versus romance.

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Annecdotist
22/9/2015 10:38:55 am

Thanks, Charli, I'm not sure if I'm inventing a false schism between love and romance but I'm looking forward to reflecting on this further

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geoff laptop link
22/9/2015 09:20:42 am

First up, nice flash and am I surprised the full story is darker? Come on, I've read your work! As for a literary description of first love the first I think, the disconnect between presence and absence feels right and takes me back a while to the painful tube journey from Liverpool Street (waving goodbye to Linda on her way to Norfolk) and Waterloo (me on the way south to the New Forest. Liverpool Street, the place of meeting and leaving has always been a more potent setting than the drab greyness of Waterloo

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Annecdotist
22/9/2015 10:41:58 am

Ha, you know me too well, Geoff, but I'm hoping the darkness isn't what you'd expect. And thanks for sharing that memory – at the beginning it's so hard to be apart, even for a short while. But such joy coming back together again.

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Norah Colvin link
22/9/2015 11:10:48 am

Well love the flash Anne, and look forward to reading the full story. How devoted love can be.
I like the final excerpt you have used. I think learning to know all the bits, the good and imperfect is definitely a part of love, as is learning to accept them. Sometimes, even after many years, I've noticed it may be still too easy to try the wrong key though!
There is one thing I noticed that is different about both your pieces from the others you have included. Each of the other authors has written about love from the perspective of the other gender. Wishful thinking perhaps? Or purely chance in your selection?

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Annecdotist
23/9/2015 10:56:11 am

Thanks, Norah. Regarding the flash, I think of love as something revealed in actions rather than words and in the more everyday than grand romantic gestures. Glad it worked for you.
I know what you mean about losing the key! I think I read somewhere recently that couples should pay attention to their first argument and ask themselves is this scenario they can bear repeating the rest of their lives. I thought it a good reminder that even in the happiest of couplings we'll have differences that can never be resolved.
That's a very interesting observation about the gender of the author versus gender of the character expressing their love for the other – given that my flash is about being loved rather than loving, it might be my wishful thinking in selecting them!

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Norah Colvin link
24/9/2015 12:25:34 am

Interesting. I hadn't noticed that difference either!

Heather Burnside link
22/9/2015 05:26:00 pm

I love your flash fiction piece too Anne. To me it reflects true love. I think that's what it's about - the little things and showing consideration for somebody you really care about.
The third author piece amused me. As somebody who has been married for 22 years I think I would definitely fit into this category and I identified with the analogies that the author has used. :)

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Annecdotist
23/9/2015 10:59:36 am

Thank you for reading, Heather, and sharing your thoughts. Although the detail of my flash isn't autobiographical, creating it reminded me of how grateful I am for my husband's love and perhaps don't say so enough (and he never reads the blog). And as I said in my comment to Norah, the third extract is a good reminder that even enduring relationships still have their awkward bits. Congratulations on your 22 years.

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Shareen Mansfield link
25/9/2015 03:59:07 pm

Too Many things to love here. I will just say LOVE

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