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I started this blog in 2013 to share my reflections on reading, writing and psychology, along with my journey to become a published novelist.​  I soon graduated to about twenty book reviews a month and a weekly 99-word story. Ten years later, I've transferred my writing / publication updates to my new website but will continue here with occasional reviews and flash fiction pieces, and maybe the odd personal post.

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Disaffected mothers: A Perfect Explanation & Adèle

11/3/2019

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Enid is a Scottish aristocrat who has married ‘down’; Adèle a working-class Parisian who married into the bourgeoisie. Enid considers sex a painful duty; Adèle is sex obsessed. For Enid, work is for men and servants; Adèle has a job. Born almost a century apart, the ‘heroines’ of these debuts nevertheless have similar motivations: both have been emotionally neglected by their own mothers and feel shackled by marriage and motherhood.
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A Perfect Explanation by Eleanor Anstruther

When the Great War claims her brother’s life, Enid is told it’s down to her to produce an heir. Having married a ‘nobody’ to spite her mother, she nevertheless does her duty, and her firstborn is a boy. But little Fagus is clumsy and awkward and, when a fall downstairs renders him disabled, her mother deems him unsuitable to inherit the estate.
 
Enid has a daughter, Finetta, and another boy. But even with servants and a nanny she finds motherhood gruelling and, when Ian is two, she flees the family home for a Christian Scientist commune in Norfolk, in the belief that her presence is doing the children harm. Two years on she’s ready to pick up the reins again, but her husband wants a divorce, and has placed their younger two with Joan, her sister, and Fagus at boarding school. When Joan reluctantly sends Ian for tea with his mother, Enid won’t let him go.
 
If only the sisters could sort things out amicably, and put the needs of the children first. But they’ve never been friends and they’re not likely to start now that whoever has Ian has custody of the family fortunes too. Years of wrangling follow, and much dirty linen is aired in court. Is Enid unfit to be a mother, or was her neglect (and eccentric management of Fagus’ illness, throwing away his medicine and tying him to a chair to pray) due to exhaustion, entrapment and grief (her father had also died recently)? How can Joan be the better option, a spinster cohabiting with a dare-not-speak-its-name ‘friend’?
 
This fascinating story (based on the life of the author’s father) is framed within another, set in 1964, when Finetta and Ian meet for lunch after which he might visit Enid in her Hampstead nursing home, having had no contact for twenty-five years. The writing is enchanting, although some of the description in the early chapters does slow the narrative down.
 
Eleanor Anstruther’s debut should do well, deservedly so, and there’s a marvellous hook in the blurb to pull readers in. Who wouldn’t want to read about a woman who sold her son to her sister for £500? Although that turns out to be a tiny tail at the end of a very long dog.
 
I wondered if the ‘sale’ was actually a (metaphorical) gift to Ian, enabling him to cut his ties. Attachment issues must be rife among the upper classes of that generation, taught to be loyal to parents who show them little attention or love. Whereas Ian is able to keep his distance, Finetta is embroiled in a passive-aggressive relationship with her mother, dutifully visiting her every week. She tells us at the start her mother hates her, so is she punishing herself (seemingly having emotionally neglected her own children) or still hoping for love?
 
Published by Salt, who provided my proof copy, A Perfect Explanation is an extremely engaging story of the bizarre culture of the aristocracy, where love is secondary to money, and the cycle of maternal deprivation across generations is difficult to escape.


Adèle by Leïla Slimani translated by Sam Taylor

Adèle is a journalist, the wife of a hard-working surgeon and the mother of a young boy. But none of those identities bring her satisfaction. Instead, Adèle is addicted to extramarital sex. Sex with strangers, acquaintances, her husband’s colleague and closest friend. And not for the joy of it: Adèle moans, but we don’t hear her orgasm, and she wants to be degraded and hurt.
 
While a sexual risk-taker, Adèle trembles at the dark streets of Paris at night. She has married for security, and now she feels trapped. She’s contemptuous of bourgeois banalities and mistreats her only friend. But although we might not like her, we can’t help taking her side.
 
Her husband’s asexuality (disclosed late in the novel) might partly explain her behaviour, although it’s suggested she’s been promiscuous since her teens. Her mother’s emotional neglect has definitely shaped her character: she wants to be wanted, to be seen. I’d have welcomed more of the psychology, and incorporated into the main story rather than in a splurge towards the end.
 
With an easy style, Adèle is a page-turner, although it loses some of its verve later on, as her husband’s point of view is introduced, and Adèle loses her freedom to follow her desires. This, the author’s debut, is actually the second of her novels to be translated into English, after the success of Lullaby last year. Thanks to Faber for my review copy.

You’ll find a feast of identities, including mothering and being mothered, in my short story collection, Becoming Someone. This quote comes from “Rebekah’s Foreskin”.


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Charli Mills
15/3/2019 10:37:14 pm

While I enjoyed both reviews, Anne, I'm intrigued by your comment regarding the blurb for A Perfect Explanation: "Although that turns out to be a tiny tail at the end of a very long dog." It's such a separate art from writing a novel, to inspire readership with at least some tasty morsel even if it is only garnish to the full plate. Do readers find out what becomes of Fagus? I felt he was most set aside and by no fault of his own. When a child is injured, he most needs a nurturing carer. But I guess that's the point -- Enid was not. Generational, do you think it warps a family or at some point, does it change for the better?

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Anne Goodwin
17/3/2019 05:13:34 pm

Blurb writing is certainly a different art and, like the cover, don't have to totally encapsulate the book. I do get irritated with some that read as if the blurber has only read the opening, although that doesn't apply in this case.

Yes, the reader gets more of Fagus than his mother seems to. There's a painful scene where she (reluctantly) takes him for lunch, he makes a mess (being blind he needs help she doesn't offer) and she sends him back to school alone in a taxi.

I think the abuse / neglect passes down through generations unless there's some kind of intervention (not necessarily professional, it could be another parent or friend providing support and modelling a better way). So much mothering depends on intuition, which comes from our own experiences of being mothered. Those who manage to break the cycle deserve a medal and more!

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Norah Colvin link
17/3/2019 11:29:23 am

Anne, I was interested to read these reviews about novels centred around an issue of great interest to you - a mother's neglect. These two books are set almost a century apart, but I think the issue has been and will remain for a long time, providing writers with fuel for their stories. It appears a few times in your own collection 'Becoming Someone' as well as in your novels. Great reads, every one.

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Anne Goodwin
17/3/2019 05:17:57 pm

Sadly, I agree it's an ongoing problem, but yeah great fuel for fiction. Missing mothers is also a theme of my next novel, although absence is the issue rather than neglect. (Just for a bit of variety.)

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Norah Colvin link
24/3/2019 10:23:28 am

We can all do with a bit of variety from time to time, Anne. :)

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Anne Goodwin
25/3/2019 08:01:46 am

;-)

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